As far as sexuality goes, though, fat people are just as interested in sex as the next person. Don’t delude yourself by believing otherwise. But it also may be true that sex drive can decrease because the added bulk you’re carrying makes it more difficult to get around.
I hope it’s clear that we are not eliminating either gender from this discussion. Men and women can be equally sensitive because of their body weight and have sex hang-ups.
During the period of life when men are passing through their climacteric (male menopause) they experience symptoms which are similar to those women encounter at menopause. Because hormonal changes are occurring, some men gain weight. With the weight gain they may feel their sexual powers leaving them. It’s important for them to understand that sexual powers are decreasing not because of the “change of life” but rather, because they are getting heavy.
In You Can Be Fat-Free Forever, Describes one man who was having such an experience. After becoming thinner than he had been in thirty years, however, he found himself passing through the male menopause and emerging more sexually active than before. As he put it, “I’ve discovered there’s a lot more still left to me in life than food.”
A Good Housekeeping article discussed twenty-five of the most commonly believed myths about weight. I won’t cite them all, but it’s worthwhile taking a quick look at a few. You stay on your diet you will lose weight every week. The fact is, we all reach plateaus where no weight loss occurs. If you believe you must lose weekly pounds, it may throw you off course.
After dieting for a while, the stomach shrinks. (This is one I always, thought was true.) The fact is if you reduce permanently the quantity of food you eat, after your weight is down for several months, you actually will feel full sooner, because you require less food. It’s a matter of getting your body accustomed to the smaller quantities. Your stomach does not change size.
When I was much heavier, I can recall going with friends for our usual Sunday night Chinese dinner. There were four of us and we always ordered food enough for six. I think we believed we would have leftovers to take home, but there seldom were. As I lost weight I found myself amazed at how my capacity dwindled. I just could not consume the same quantity of food as I had earlier. Had my stomach shrunk? I thought so, until I learned the above.
I like to think that my body has outsmarted me. I put it that way because when I was reducing I always planned that when I got thin, I would always save room for desserts at dinner, no matter what. I’m a person who scans the dessert section of a menu first and then I decide what I will eat. Thus, if I see a tempting dessert I adjust my dinner to accommodate it.
Ironically, I often find myself too full to eat the dessert. Yes, too full. I never dreamed that could happen on my way down, but it has. I’ll bet you don’t think that will ever happen to you, either?
You need extra vitamins while you are dieting. We certainly are hammered at by television and radio as well as print ads to make us believe so. But if you eat a well-balanced diet, there is no need for vitamin supplements. Moreover, if you think you can go on a fad diet and supplement what your body is lacking by taking vitamins, that isn’t going to happen, either.
I heard the strangest example of this attitude from a man who called in to one of those “talk” radio programs where the listener can speak to the “expert” on the air. This day the studio guest was a diet specialist who was also an expert in nutrition.
The caller had a problem. He had devised a fad diet of his own. He ate dry cereal which came in single portion boxes. He did so because he could read the outside of the box and know exactly how many calories he was consuming. It also gave the vitamin breakdown. His question was, how many boxes of cereal did he have to eat in order to have a perfect quota of vitamins daily?
There was a long moment of total silence before the expert could respond that this was an extreme example of how people can misinterpret concepts!
Does alcohol stimulate appetite? Some people find that when they are tense their appetite may diminish (unless they are the type that eats out of control under the same conditions!). Since alcohol can relax you, it can also turn on your appetite by reducing tension. But then, any form of relaxation would help appetite come back; it doesn’t necessarily have to be alcohol. Food also acts as a relaxant, which is one reason we eat when we’re tense.
As all of us veteran dieters know, alcohol contains calories which you just have to tack onto your intake count. Most drinks contain more than 150 calories. It’s important to understand how your body uses alcohol in order to judge whether it’s worth eliminating or keeping it part of your life.